Princess Diana Funeral Eulogy
by Earl Charles Spencer
I
stand before you today the representative of a family in grief, in a
country in mourning before a world in shock. We are all united not only in
our desire to pay our respects to Diana but rather in our need to do so.
For such was her extraordinary appeal that the tens of millions of people
taking part in this service all over the world via television and radio
who never actually met her, feel that they too lost someone close to them
in the early hours of Sunday morning. It is a more remarkable tribute to
Diana than I can ever hope to offer her today.
"No
Need for Royal Title"
Diana
was the very essence of compassion, of duty, of style, of beauty. All over
the world she was a symbol of selfless humanity. All over the world, a
standard bearer for the rights of the truly downtrodden, a very British
girl who transcended nationality. Someone with a natural nobility who was
classless and who proved in the last year that she needed no royal title
to continue to generate her particular brand of magic.
Today
is our chance to say thank you for the way you brightened our lives, even
though God granted you but half a life. We will all feel cheated always
that you were taken from us so young and yet we must learn to be grateful
that you came along at all. Only now that you are gone do we truly
appreciate what we are now without and we want you to know that life
without you is very, very difficult.
We
have all despaired at our loss over the past week and only the strength of
the message you gave us through your years of giving has afforded us the
strength to move forward.
"Great
Gift of Intuition"
There
is a temptation to rush to canonise your memory, there is no need to do
so. You stand tall enough as a human being of unique qualities not to need
to be seen as a saint. Indeed to sanctify your memory would be to miss out
on the very core of your being, your wonderfully mischievous sense of
humour with a laugh that bent you double.
Your
joy for life transmitted where ever you took your smile and the sparkle in
those unforgettable eyes. Your boundless energy which you could barely
contain.
But
your greatest gift was your intuition and it was a gift you used wisely.
This is what underpinned all your other wonderful attributes and if we
look to analyse what it was about you that had such a wide appeal we find
it in your instinctive feel for what was really important in all our
lives.
Without
your God-given sensitivity we would be immersed in greater ignorance at
the anguish of Aids and HIV sufferers, the plight of the homeless, the
isolation of lepers, the random destruction of landmines.
"Innermost
Feelings of Suffering"
Diana
explained to me once that it was her innermost feelings of suffering that
made it possible for her to connect with her constituency of the rejected.
And
here we come to another truth about her. For all the status, the glamour,
the applause, Diana remained throughout a very insecure person at heart,
almost childlike in her desire to do good for others so she could release
herself from deep feelings of unworthiness of which her eating disorders
were merely a symptom.
The
world sensed this part of her character and cherished her for her
vulnerability whilst admiring her for her honesty.
The
last time I saw Diana was on July 1, her birthday in London, when
typically she was not taking time to celebrate her special day with
friends but was guest of honour at a special charity fundraising evening.
She sparkled of course, but I would rather cherish the days I spent with
her in March when she came to visit me and my children in our home in
South Africa. I am proud of the fact apart from when she was on display
meeting President Mandela we managed to contrive to stop the ever-present
paparazzi from getting a single picture of her - that meant a lot to her.
These
were days I will always treasure. It was as if we had been transported
back to our childhood when we spent such an enormous amount of time
together - the two youngest in the family.
Fundamentally
she had not changed at all from the big sister who mothered me as a baby,
fought with me at school and endured those long train journeys between our
parents' homes with me at weekends.
It
is a tribute to her level-headedness and strength that despite the most
bizarre-like life imaginable after her childhood, she remained intact,
true to herself.
"Diana's
Goodness Threatened the Media"
There
is no doubt that she was looking for a new direction in her life at this
time. She talked endlessly of getting away from England, mainly because of
the treatment that she received at the hands of the newspapers. I don't
think she ever understood why her genuinely good intentions were sneered
at by the media, why there appeared to be a permanent quest on their
behalf to bring her down. It is baffling.
My
own and only explanation is that genuine goodness is threatening to those
at the opposite end of the moral spectrum. It is a point to remember that
of all the ironies about Diana, perhaps the greatest was this - a girl
given the name of the ancient goddess of hunting was, in the end, the most
hunted person of the modern age.
She
would want us today to pledge ourselves to protecting her beloved boys
William and Harry from a similar fate and I do this here Diana on your
behalf. We will not allow them to suffer the anguish that used regularly
to drive you to tearful despair.
"Blood
Family Will Protect Sons"
And
beyond that, on behalf of your mother and sisters, I pledge that we, your
blood family, will do all we can to continue the imaginative way in which
you were steering these two exceptional young men so that their souls are
not simply immersed by duty and tradition but can sing openly as you
planned.
We
fully respect the heritage into which they have both been born and will
always respect and encourage them in their royal role but we, like you,
recognise the need for them to experience as many different aspects of
life as possible to arm them spiritually and emotionally for the years
ahead. I know you would have expected nothing less from us.
William
and Harry, we all cared desperately for you today. We are all chewed up
with the sadness at the loss of a woman who was not even our mother. How
great your suffering is, we cannot even imagine.
I
would like to end by thanking God for the small mercies he has shown us at
this dreadful time. For taking Diana at her most beautiful and radiant and
when she had joy in her private life. Above all we give thanks for the
life of a woman I am so proud to be able to call my sister, the unique,
the complex, the extraordinary and irreplaceable Diana whose beauty, both
internal and external, will never be extinguished from our minds.
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CHARLES, EARL SPENCER
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